I understand why he doesn’t want Hunter to tell anyone…but, I’m not sure that telling him that he has to keep secrets is super great. I don’t like the precedent it sets.
It’s not like he wants to hide this fact, but you would want to keep it super simple for a kid Hunter’s age to understand. Don’t overcomplicate the instructions with caveats. You know he’s going to say something to his friends, or even to his teachers about his fun adventure (which may point a spotlight in Colin’s direction given what Hunter just went through not 3 days prior).
However, you’re right that it can be a delicate balancing act. You want them to express themselves, but not TOO much, and not in the wrong way.
I understand. I mostly meant the whole idea of adults being able to tell you that you must not tell anyone about something. If someone else will less than protective intentions tells him to do the same after some unpleasant event (and this group seems to be a magnet for that sort of thing), he kind of already has it in his head that, yeah, adults can just decree a subject is forbidden from being told to anyone else.
I’d say it’s less a secret and more prudence. This is a conversation that probably should have occured before they were allowed to strip down, but didn’t. Laying out a few cautions, tempering expectations and re-enforcing that ti’s not wrong, but also not something that can not be universally applied.
It was something I learned myself when i wasa bt younger than Hunter and my poor parents gave up the fight of keepingme in clothes at least at home, so long as I followed… well similar rules as Colin laid out here.
Yet young kits have few filters, especially at Hunters age.
He got to do something fun, he had a good time, he got to do something that he’d been chastized for previously, he is going to want to share that experience with his friend(s)….He may still very well let it slip if he’s excited and just rambling on.
As a for instance: When he was in second grade, my son got tired of the School Doctor asking him every year about the scar on his upper lip. (He was born with a cleft lip and palate which had been surgically repaired).
He told the Doctor, “My Dad smacked me in the mouth last night.”
I’m sure you can imagine what happened after that.
Ampy
3 years ago
#1484
wonder when this being nakad thing was popular XD
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I understand why he doesn’t want Hunter to tell anyone…but, I’m not sure that telling him that he has to keep secrets is super great. I don’t like the precedent it sets.
It’s not like he wants to hide this fact, but you would want to keep it super simple for a kid Hunter’s age to understand. Don’t overcomplicate the instructions with caveats. You know he’s going to say something to his friends, or even to his teachers about his fun adventure (which may point a spotlight in Colin’s direction given what Hunter just went through not 3 days prior).
However, you’re right that it can be a delicate balancing act. You want them to express themselves, but not TOO much, and not in the wrong way.
I understand. I mostly meant the whole idea of adults being able to tell you that you must not tell anyone about something. If someone else will less than protective intentions tells him to do the same after some unpleasant event (and this group seems to be a magnet for that sort of thing), he kind of already has it in his head that, yeah, adults can just decree a subject is forbidden from being told to anyone else.
I’d say it’s less a secret and more prudence. This is a conversation that probably should have occured before they were allowed to strip down, but didn’t. Laying out a few cautions, tempering expectations and re-enforcing that ti’s not wrong, but also not something that can not be universally applied.
It was something I learned myself when i wasa bt younger than Hunter and my poor parents gave up the fight of keepingme in clothes at least at home, so long as I followed… well similar rules as Colin laid out here.
Keeping secrets? Young kids learn at an early age from other kids to not snitch, usually at school.
Yet young kits have few filters, especially at Hunters age.
He got to do something fun, he had a good time, he got to do something that he’d been chastized for previously, he is going to want to share that experience with his friend(s)….He may still very well let it slip if he’s excited and just rambling on.
I’m afraid an unexpected can of worms has been opened.
that’s probably going to backfire… a lot. :/
I disagree. Even little kids know there are things you keep secret.
It could.
As a for instance: When he was in second grade, my son got tired of the School Doctor asking him every year about the scar on his upper lip. (He was born with a cleft lip and palate which had been surgically repaired).
He told the Doctor, “My Dad smacked me in the mouth last night.”
I’m sure you can imagine what happened after that.
wonder when this being nakad thing was popular XD